do you wish you felt more welcome in your own home?

Hi, this is your wife speaking.

Honey, I want you home with me.

You want to feel welcome at home.

We want the same thing.

So what’s happening?

If I haven’t made you feel welcome, I’d love to understand the exact experiences you’ve had that make you feel this way. 

Living two separate lives next to each other is not what I want.

That’s not the relationship I signed up for.

You deserve better.

I deserve better.

I want to be your home.

Your safe harbour.

I’d love to understand how I could make you feel loved, desired and free in our home. 

Please tell me what exactly is making you feel unwelcome.

Let’s figure it out.

From my side…

When you’re home you’re not really home. 

You’re not present.

Which makes it hard to connect with you. 

I feel rejected, like all these other things are more important than me

Phone calls, emails… you’re here but you’re not really here.

I understand work is important.

I appreciate how hard you work. 

But it doesn’t stop with work.

When work quietens, you decompress by reading on your phone, or shopping, or scrolling. 

This makes me feel unwelcome in your world. 

I’m not saying it’s your fault. It’s not. 

We are both equally responsible for creating this absenteeism energy in our home.

I would love to fix it, together with you.

You and I are a team.

What’s the best way to do that?

Sincerely,

Your wife

Relating is a learnable skill.

It’s called Relating Intelligence.