do you ever wish your wife would stop nagging?

Hi, this is your wife speaking.

Nagging is not a thing.

Nagging is a judgement on my communication.

I’m using certain words in a certain way that you have interpreted as nagging.

Guess what… when you put that label onto someone, they will nag more. Your brain is looking for it and gives you reasons why you are right.

Your wife wants peace.

You want peace.

We all want peace.

The problem is not that we want different things. 

The problem is that you haven’t learned skill of interpreting her communication in a way that serves you and serves your relationship.

Thank goodness I’m “nagging”.  I care.

The problem is not that we want different things. 

The problem is that nobody taught you how to be my safe harbor so that I can say anything I want in any way I want and still be loved for exactly who I am.

I get to be more me.

That’s what I want.

You get to be more you.

That’s what you want.

Honey, we want the same thing. Let’s remove the word ‘nagging’ from our vocab entirely. 

What could we replace it with?

Sincerely,

Your wife.

Relating is a learnable skill. 

It’s called Relating Intelligence.